How to Lift Yourself Up When You’re Going Through Hard Times

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When you find yourself in a pit– whether it be from losing a loved one or an ongoing conflict– it seems like you’ll never be able to lift yourself out.

We are all going through hard times and figuring out ways to relieve your grief and stress can help improve your quality of life.

If you’re having a difficult time coming up with ways on your own, we can help!

Feel Your Feels

Are you sad? Angry? Feel that.

It seems like a simple solution to a complicated set of emotions but allowing yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling about a situation does more good than harm.

Too often, we find ourselves limiting our emotional expression. This will only lead to residual emotions that become more powerful later on.

Sadness turns into depression. Anger will seep into every aspect of your life as you become less patient and quick-tempered. Keeping your emotions bottled up will make you reactive.

Take a moment or an entire day to just feel. Allow yourself to cry, to be upset or angry. Work through those emotions and know healing doesn’t happen overnight.

Write It Out

A good method of expressing those emotions is to write out how you’re feeling.

Keeping a journal and writing in it every day acts as a tool for you to communicate without the pressure of having a dialogue. While you’re going through a difficult time in life you can use writing to give things clarity.

There are a few exercises you can do in your journal:

What Can You Control?

Take a moment to write down everything about the situation that you have control over. From your feelings to the actions you can take.

Using this information it will be easier for you to determine the best course of action you can take towards moving forward.

Letting go of those things you cannot control will lift the burden of the situation from your shoulders.

Learn from Your Mistakes

When you’re tackling a difficult time the best thing you can do is learn from the mistakes you made.

If you’ve lost a job or are fighting with a friend, take a step back and assess what you might have been able to do differently.

Write down the possible outcomes of the situation moving forward and what steps you can take to reach them.

Using these exercises will help you work through the issue by laying out how you feel about the issue and ways you can get through it.

Treat Yo Self

These three words have become a staple in self-care. To ‘Treat Yo Self‘ is to take one day and do all the things you’ve wanted or already love to do.

Self-care is incredibly important when getting through tough times. We easily begin to take care of those around us to the point we forget about ourselves.

Here are some ideas of ways you can practice self-care:

  • Take a bubble bath
  • Go out to eat at your favorite restaurant
  • Get your hair cut, styled or colored
  • Buy a new outfit that makes you feel confident
  • Watch a movie
  • Binge a show you like
  • Take a cheat day from your diet
  • Get your nails done
  • Buy a bouquet of flowers to brighten your home
  • Curl up and read a book
  • Go for a walk outside
  • Visit an animal shelter to pet some furry friends
  • Take a nap, seriously sleep is good for you

These are just a few ways you can start making yourself feel better. Try to take time out of each week for you. This relieves stress and makes you feel better about yourself.

Remember Your Health

When having a hard time you’re likely to forget about eating, not get enough or get too much sleep. Your physical health is linked to your mental health and neglecting one will throw off the other.

Eating healthy will provide your body with the nutrients it needs to stay energized and run smoothly. This doesn’t mean that comfort food during a specific difficult time is a no-go but don’t make it a habit.

Make sure you’re getting enough but not too much sleep. Not sleeping enough will spiral into other health issues if done long enough. Sleeping too much will have the same effect– specifically for your muscles and organs.

Eight hours of sleep is recommended for adults to maintain a healthy, balanced schedule.

Exercising will help you sleep and make you hungry– it’s also been proven to help with depression. You don’t have to sign a gym membership to exercise and it can be as simple as 30 minutes of yoga a day.

Avoid alcohol or other substances. These act as depressants and will bring you further down.

Taking care of your body will have a direct effect on taking care of your mind.

Seek a Support System

You don’t have to go through a difficult time in life alone. You shouldn’t.

As strong as we may feel, we all need a support system made up of friends, family, and therapists who can listen when we need them.

Not everyone in our life is available to act as a therapist when we need more direct communication or are dealing with specific traumatic events.

Needing a therapist does not mean you are not capable. It does not mean you are weak. These are people trained to help us find ways to cope with life when it gets far more difficult than we imagined it could.

Finding a therapist is easy with this company, which connects you to resources and people who are able to help.

Having a strong support system eases the burden and feeling that you must carry the weight alone. You are not alone.

Going Through Hard Times

If you find yourself going through hard times remember these steps you can take to begin the healing process.

Sometimes it’s as easy as writing it out during a bubble bath but other time require more emotional work.

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